Dan Bacon asked:


Połączenie jest cocky i zabawny (C & F) w tym samym czasie jest jak rakiety paliwem pod względem przyciągania iskry z kobiet.

Jest to bardzo potężne.

Cocky & Funny oznacza w zasadzie do wykorzystania arogancki, ale pełen humoru zachowanie i słowa.

Ze względu na włączenie pychy, niebezpieczny lub "self-hating" kobiety zazwyczaj nie reagują dobrze. Mogą oni czują, że są zbyt dobre dla nich i często staje się zbyt nerwowy / zastraszeni wokół Ciebie, lub próby werbalne spar z wami przez ponad wykorzystujących cocky i zabawny w zamian.

Jednak, kiedy można dowiedzieć się, jak komunikować się w ten sposób, można zauważyć, że piękne i pożądane kobiety będą po nagle zacząć zwracając uwagę o wiele więcej do Ciebie i leczenia jest bardzo różnie.

Oni mówia rzeczy jak, "Wow, jesteś inny niż większość guys I zbiera", który można przetłumaczyć na "Wow, jesteś nie próbuje suck do mnie jak każdy inny facet. Nie próbujesz pocałować do mnie, bo jestem piękna. Ja nawet nie wiem, czy na pewno chcesz mnie … nie chcesz mnie? somehow, I feel like Idę się do zachwyci Was, aby można było jak do mnie … Ja jestem intryguje! "

Oto przykład cocky i zabawne wiersze w działaniu:

Jej: Hej, masz naprawdę interesujący facet … I like that.
Użytkownik: Dzięki, ale uznanie, że jak będzie Ci nigdzie ze mną w porządku? Ja nie jestem z wami dzisiaj spania. Nie jestem tak proste.
Jej: Haha!
Użytkownik: mam na myśli, uczucia mam y'know? Jestem nie tylko kawałek mięsa!
Jej: Haha! Nie mogę wierzyć, że po prostu!

Co ona oznacza to, "I like it, należy traktować tak jak mnie, że znowu!"

A facet jest Clueless którzy o flirty z kobiet będzie myśleć, że obrażony i jej szybko powiedzieć coś o wycofaniu cocky i zabawny komentarz.

Clueless Guy: Oh no, I was just kidding!
Kobieta: Oh, okay … hehe.

Co ona rzeczywiście oznacza to, "Oh, w porządku … więc nie ma żadnych piłki po wszystkim? Well, I guess możesz być moja nowa dziewczyna. Let's laughing nadal razem jest trochę dziewczyna-man.

I właśnie stracił ogromnej ilości atrakcją dla Ciebie. Jesteś typem faceta którzy mają być wszystkie soppy w sypialni i miły, placid zachowanie zamieniłby się do mnie.

Gdybym się rzeczywiście hak z tobą, będę się z jednej "noszenia spodni" w relacjach i mówiąc, wolę być w relacji z człowiekiem, nie kobietą. "

Teraz możesz się czytania o czym cocky & funny kobiet i myślenia, "There's no way I could pull off the cocky zabawny i postawy. Nie wiem, że kobieta lubi mnie na pewno, więc dlaczego miałbym ryzyko jej laughing na mnie sugerujące takie rzeczy? "

Zmień swój sposób myślenia i ocky sobie sprawę, że jest po prostu śmieszne i język werbalny flirty.

Jeśli używasz cocky i zabawne wiersze i zachowań we właściwy sposób, kobieta będzie wiedzieć, że jesteś flirty.

Teraz możesz być również myślenie, "Well, I nie chce działać jak … że ja po prostu chce być sam."

Następnie chcesz lepiej się do osiągnięcia tych samych wyników, że stary masz zawsze z kobietami!

Jeśli obecne problemy nie są Ci się wyniki chcemy, musisz zmienić sposób interakcji z kobietami.

"I Hate ludzi, którzy …"

Kobiety często sprawdzić swoje motywy poprzez komentarze jak: "Ja go nienawidzę, kiedy ludzie na mnie gapisz jak ja jestem po prostu kawałek mięsa. I want a guy którzy rzeczywiście dba o mnie i chce troszczyć się o mnie."

Komentarze takie jak te możliwości są idealne dla Ciebie, aby być cocky & funny.

A dziewczyna-man będzie leżeć i odpowiadać próbując udowodnić, że jest on idealny facet dla niej, "Tak, wiem … faceci tylko dbałość o jednej rzeczy. Ja nie jestem, że jak na wszystkich …"

Nie należy odpowiedzieć tak. Nie wstydzi się być człowiekiem.

Szczerze mówiąc o swoich pragnień, podczas gdy dla kobiety jest zabawny. Kobiety doceniają, BIG TIME. Oni również miejsce jest w innej kategorii (potencjalnego kochanka) do dziewczyna-Men (potencjalnego przyjaciela).

Oto kilka cocky i zabawne wiersze, których można użyć jako odpowiedź na taki komentarz. Należy pamiętać, że jest zabawny, kiedy mówił im:

— Oczywiście nie wiem mężczyzn bardzo dobrze. Jesteśmy wszyscy tak.

— * Yawn *… nudne. Czy jeszcze gotowy?

–: … Ale ja jestem pomylony teraz …
   Jej: Dlaczego?
   Użytkownik: Cóż … bo to tylko kawałek mięsa! Wiem, wiem – nie ma tak dużo więcej niż ci wygląd i ciało … i prawdopodobnie posiadać osobowość zbyt niesamowite, jestem pewien. Ale na tym etapie, jeszcze tylko do zobaczenia jak kawałek mięsa.

Pamiętaj: Po raz kolejny, być zabawny z cocky & funny. To nie oznaczało dla kobiet skrzywdzić lub demean nich, to należy rozumieć zabawy.

Z ostatniej cocky i zabawny wiersz powyżej, powinno być uśmiechnięta i żartować.

Baw się dobrze!

David_DeAngelo asked:


Oto mały mini-kurs, w jaki sposób ma być zabawny: Po pierwsze, należy przejść do odczytu Comedy Writing Secrets przez Melvin Helitzer. A gdy jesteś na niej obejrzeć kilka dobrych stand up comedy rutyny jak Chris Rock, Eddie Murphy, Robin Williams. Słuchaj, jak ich używać słowa grać, podwójne znaczenie, przesady i błędnej interpretacji, aby utworzyć humoru. Nadszedł czas, aby dostać się zestaw standardowych rzeczy można powiedzieć, że w niektórych z najbardziej typowych sytuacjach. Oto lista że ja osobiście i przykładów użycia w przypadkach, gdy można z nich korzystać: 1. Za każdym razem, gdy ktoś ma coś do emocjonalnych reakcji, powiedzmy, "Jak Czy naprawdę uważasz, że na ten temat?" Na przykład, jeśli kobieta mówi, "I just hate it, kiedy ludzie wokół mnie dym!" Znaczy "Jak Czy naprawdę uważasz, że o go? "sarkazm jest, że już pokazały, że mają one bardzo silne uczucia, tak" Jak Czy naprawdę uważasz, że "tworzy żart na nich, że są one zbyt emocjonalne. 2. Powiedz: "Anyway" i szukać daleko szybko po złożeniu wisecrack. Na przykład, jeśli ktoś mówi: "Ta dziewczyna jest tam brzydki" mówią, "Oh, I thought she was był – tak" (patrz sie szybko). W szybki i szuka dalej "Anyway" (próbuje wysiąść tematu) tworzy zabawny moment. 3. Niewłaściwie interpretują to, co mówią kobiety. Zawsze słuchać o możliwości niewłaściwie interpretują słowa. Jeśli powie: "Chodźmy do baru nad mieć napój", a kobieta mówi: "Zróbmy to", zwracają się do niej i powiedzieć, "Let's do it? Masz na myśli tutaj? Myślę, że linia na stoisko łazienka jest zbyt długi, a ja wolisz mieć napój. "4. Poszukaj w Innuendo wszystko seksualnego i używania jej oskarżania go do prób uwodzić przed jej nawet wiedzieć. Jeśli mówi, "Dobrze, ja jestem dostawanie zmęczony i myślę, nadszedł czas na łóżko", powiedzmy, "Bed? I mean, I nie wiedzą nawet, jeśli wiesz, jak pocałunek … i chcesz się do mnie w łóżku? Co się stało z dawnych czasów, kiedy można być przyjaciółmi po raz pierwszy? "5. Exaggerate. Jeśli chodzi o kobietę z nadwagą, powiedzmy, "What would you guess? 900 funtów? "Albo jeśli jakaś kobieta skarży się na temat części swojego ciała lub jej odzieży (kocham te możliwości), exaggerate. Na przykład, jeśli ona mówi: "Moje włosy dziś wygląda jak piekło", można powiedzieć: "Ja nie chce powiedzieć nic." Ohhhh to funny stuff. You'll get a zwykle hit na ramię (w tym przypadku możesz na niej spank ass). Następnie można przejść na całą noc podejmowania zabawy jej włosami, mówienie o tym, jak wszyscy patrząc na to, w jaki sposób jesteś zakłopotany należy postrzegać z jego powodu, etc.6. Kontakt rzeczy wokół ciebie do bieżących spraw w zabawny sposób. Jeśli kobieta z ogromnym butt spacery przez, powiedzmy, "Hej, Jennifer Lopez jest w domu." Jeśli kobieta zaczyna mówić o tym, jak ona właśnie kupił sobie nowy samochód, powiedzmy, "Podoba mi się, że piosenka Independent Woman ma na ciebie. "(Są to, oczywiście, obecnie funny. przyszłym roku, będzie to inny zestaw rzeczy.) 7. Nie uśmiechem zbyt wiele i nie śmiać na własną żartów bardzo często. Po uśmiech lub śmiech, uwalnia napięcia. Jeśli możesz zachować prostą twarz, żart zabawne dłuższy pobyt. OK, tam listę podstawowych rzeczy, które zostały omówione w odniesieniu humoru. Osobiście polecamy, aby rozpocząć studia humor, czytać książki na ten temat, przejdź do komedii klubów, oraz nauczyć się bardziej zaawansowanych umiejętności. Ponadto, rozpoczęcie czytania czasopism Maxim i Stuff. Przeczytaj w jaki sposób używać odwrócenia humoru. To jest dobre funny stuff.

Dan Bacon asked:


The combination of being cocky and funny (C&F) at the same time is like rocket fuel in terms of sparking attraction with women.

It’s very powerful.

Cocky & Funny basically means to use arrogant but humorous behavior and words.

Because of the inclusion of arrogance, insecure or ‘self-hating’ women usually don’t respond well to it. They may feel that you are too good for them and will often become too nervous/intimidated around you, or try to verbal spar with you by over-using cocky & funny in return.

However, once you learn how to communicate in this way, you will notice that the beautiful and sought-after women will suddenly start paying a lot more attention to you and treating you very differently.

They will say things like, “Wow, you’re different than most guys I meet” which can be translated to “Wow, you’re not trying to suck up to me like every other guy. Nor are you trying to kiss up to me because I’m beautiful. I don’t even know if you really want me…do you like me? Somehow, I feel like I’m going to have to impress YOU in order for you to like me…I’m intrigued!”

Here’s an example of cocky & funny lines in action:

Her: Hey, you’re a really interesting guy…I like that.
You: Thanks, but compliments like that will get you nowhere with me okay? I’m not sleeping with you tonight. I’m not that easy.
Her: Haha!
You: I mean, I have feelings y’know? I’m not just a piece of meat!
Her: Haha! I can’t believe you just said that!

What she means is, “I like it, please treat me like that again!”

A guy who is clueless about flirting with women will think that he offended her and quickly say something to withdraw the cocky & funny comment.

Clueless guy: Oh no, I was just kidding!
Woman: Oh, okay…hehe.

What she really means is, “Oh, okay…so you don’t have any balls after all? Well, I guess you can be my new girlfriend. Let’s continue laughing together you little girly-man.

I just lost a massive amount of attraction for you. You’re the kind of guy who’d be all soppy in the bedroom and your nice, placid behavior would turn me off.

If I were to actually hook up with you, I’d be the one ‘wearing the pants’ in the relationship and frankly, I’d prefer to be in a relationship with a man, not a woman.”

Now, you might be reading about being cocky & funny with women and thinking, “There’s no way I could pull off the cocky and funny attitude. I don’t know that a woman likes me for sure, so why would I risk her laughing at me for suggesting such a thing?”

Change your mindset and realize that ocky and funny is simply the language of verbal flirting.

If you use cocky and funny lines and behaviors in the right way, a woman will know that you’re flirting.

Now, you might also be thinking, “Well, I don’t want to act like that…I just want to be myself.”

Then you’d better get used to achieving the same old results that you always have with women!

If your current behaviors aren’t getting you the results you desire, you need to change the way you interact with women.

“I Hate Men Who…”

Women will often test your motives by making comments like, “I hate it when men stare at me like I’m just a piece of meat. I want a guy who actually cares about me and wants to take care of me.”

Comments like those are perfect opportunities for you to be cocky & funny.

A girly-man will lie and respond by trying to prove that he is the ideal guy for her, “Yeah, I know…guys only care about one thing. I’m not like that at all…”

Don’t respond like that. Don’t be ashamed to be man.

Be honest about your desires for women while being playful. Women appreciate it, BIG TIME. They also place you in a different category (potential lover) to the girly-men (potential friend).

Here are some cocky & funny lines you can use as a reply to such a comment. Remember, be playful when saying them:

- You obviously don’t know men very well. We’re all like that.

- *Yawn*…boring. Have you finished yet?

- You: But…I’m confused now…
Her: Why?
You: Well…because you are just a piece of meat! I know, I know – there’s SO much more to you than your looks and body…and you probably have an awesome personality too, I’m sure of it. But, at this stage, I still only see you as a piece of meat.

Remember: Once again, be PLAYFUL with cocky & funny. It’s not meant to hurt women or demean them, it’s meant to be FUN.

With the last cocky and funny line above, you should be smiling and JOKING.

Enjoy!

Cdmohatta asked:


Humor is the oxygen for the soul. Many of us laugh when we watch others making fool of themselves. How many do when they make a fool of themselves? When it comes to us, suddenly we lose our sense of humor. It is replaced by anger. That is wrong. When we have true sense of humor, we can laugh at ourselves. How does this ability help us? Let us find out.

It is said that most of the great persons have a sense of humor. They can laugh at themselves. This is important because life brings us many surprises and if we react emotionally to all of them, we will be drained of energy soon. Try this experiment. Watch a cartoon and laugh. Now watch a sad movie and feel sad. In the third instance watch anything that will make you angry. After watching and observing your feelings of humor, sadness and anger look at your body. When did the body feel good? It was humor, is that not?

Next time in any situation if you are the butt of the joke, laugh it out. Do not show any anger or sadness. Ignore the negatives and laugh. You will be doing a great service to yourself. The greatest saint of India says that tongue has no bones so it speaks anything. Please ignore all the speech of others that troubles you and laugh it out. Quiz yourself about your sense of humor and develop it further.

Try out some Fun Tests.

John Smith asked:


Dads might wait with bated breath for that longed-for occasion that comes all too infrequently on the third Sunday of June, but why should they have to? Sure, Father’s Day is a great occasion on which to lavish praise, adoration and Gifts on our dads and to get the family together. But if we’re expressing such a deeply held sentiment of love and gratitude (and let’s assume that we are), why do we see it as a once-a-year event? GettingPersonal.co.uk investigates …Perhaps we’ve become conditioned to restrict our gift buying to such social events as Christmas, birthdays and anniversaries. This would explain why it’s such a pleasant surprise when somebody turns up with a present right out of the blue. And when it happens, the first thing we think is “Why?” We start to scour our brains for reasons why someone would gift us without having a good reason. We might even suspect them of betraying a guilty conscience or preparing to ask for a huge favour. But these feelings can take away the magic of an unexpected treat. Maybe they just like you! Get used to it!Perhaps it might seem a little less weird if we turn the tables. Think of someone you care for, be it a parent, a sibling, a lover or a friend. Then imagine you’re out shopping and you see something that instantly makes you think of them. Something that isn’t necessarily expensive but that you just know they would love and that would really make their day. Then you remember that it was their birthday a fortnight ago. What do you do?If you make a mental note to come back in fifty weeks, it’s probably fair to say that you’re not a spur of the moment type of person. After all, the would-be recipient will never find out about your moment of thoughtfulness, will they? They can’t possibly be disappointed. And what a surprise they’ll have next birthday!Alternatively, you might be the sort of person whose hand goes instinctively into the pocket and who then makes a beeline for the recipient’s home, gleaming with excitement. You’re a spontaneous person who gets a kick out of lighting up someone’s life. And why? Because you care for them and want to!So as you can see, it’s not just the recipient who gets cheered up by the Gifts from nowhere. The giver too is filled with a sense of warmth and happiness, and the collective cheer far outweighs the cost of the gift itself. The knowledge that someone was thinking about you when they were going about their own busy life is a wonderful thing. And it sure is infectious!No doubt you’ve already started to think of a special person in your life who deserves a little gift out of season. It might be to repay a favour or it might simply be because you don’t feel like you tell them often enough how you feel about them.Once you’ve decided to gift someone, have a look at the categories at the top of every page of GettingPersonal.co.uk. If the recipient is a man, have a look under “Father’s Day Gifts” or “Gifts for him”. Obviously some of the Gifts can be ruled out as they are specifically designed as birthday or Father’s Day Gifts. But most of them are simply things that men like and will be appreciated all year round.After all, 364 days is a long time to wait to let someone know how you feel about them!

Richard G M Taylor asked:


Treating male sexual impotency together as a couple can be an effective way to deal with this delicate issue. Male sexual impotency can involve a number of factors and more often than not the root cause is found to be of a physiological or psychological nature. Seeking treatment for sexual impotency as a couple involves a number of issues such as what type of couple would this type of treatment be most suited to and what type of couple is likely to achieve positive results from this approach. This article will give some ideas of the type of couple most suitable for treating male sexual impotency as a couple.

First of all the couple need to be able to communicate and not be embarrassed to openly discuss the most intimate sexual issues within their relationship. They need to be forthcoming about their feelings, desires and problems with these issues. They must be able to view the male sexual impotency as a joint problem without apportioning blame to one partner or the other. Treating male sexual impotency together as a couple can only be successful if the couple are committed to working through the course of treatment together.

Secondly, the couple must possess a good sense of humour. Whilst the problem of male sexual impotency is a serious issue within the relationship, it is important not to be stressed out by it. Humour often helps to deal with the treatment and keep matters in a proper perspective.

Thirdly, the couple need to deal with and openly discuss their sexual history not just in their own relationship but maybe also in previous relationships. This can often lead to identifying a ‘crack’ in their relationship which can lead to proactive measures within the treatment program to repair the crack. Male sexual impotency is a delicate issue for discussion within this context and will require a high level of commitment from both sides to achieve a positive result.

Finally, the couple need to appreciate that there is unlikely to be an immediate short term solution particularly if the problem is of a psychological nature. They must be realistic about the outcome of a course of treatment for male sexual impotency and accept that it may take some time for the full extent of the treatment to take effect.

Debbie Connolly asked:


As someone who sees herself as a bit “girl power” I resent books like “The Rules” which make those of us over 40 and single feel like failures. Like we never joined the secret “how to get married” club, or rather we never got invited.

So for all those of us who actually like being single and do not need to be married to prove we are in fact really women and not men in drag I dedicate this article. If you are with a man and want to get rid of him and let him think he did it himself, or you are with a man and he is getting a bit too serious, then read on:

It is commonly thought that men run from commitment and so turning up for a date in a wedding dress or meeting his parents and asking “can I call you Mom?” used to be a sure fire way of getting rid of him. However the rise of the “metro sexual” man has put paid to all of that. Men now want to talk about feelings and steal our hair products so we need a new strategy.

If you are dating a man whose beauty regime makes yours look like a slap in the face with a damp towel, then competing with him means buying better products than he does. Ok so it goes against the grain to spend £20 on moisturiser when you have saddle soap and an old packet of lard in the cupboard, but buy it you must. A cheaper version of this is to find a friend with lots of expensive products and steam off the labels. Although I suppose if she wasn’t going to notice you steaming the labels off she probably wouldn’t spot you taking them altogether.

Make a big show of using the expensive stuff then pick his up, look at it, and put it back down with a sigh. Look at him at this moment and tell him how lovely his skin looks. Even if that happens to be true, the seed of doubt will have been sown. No man can compete with a woman whose beauty products are better than his and he will want to trade you in for a woman who wears no make up and wants to bask in his glory.

Men can get very involved in the bits that used to be “just for girls”. Like planning the wedding and looking at catalogues. So if you are dating mature, “planning for the future” man, it’s a good idea to paint a really bad picture of your potential life together. Conversations about him giving up his football/ beer/friends/family/job will usually make the bravest of them stop and think. Too many times you let them steer the conversation into how much they love you, how lovely it will be to be together all the time, how they don’t need anyone else. Make them realise that those situations would be non existent and that your time together now is only bearable because of the interruptions from football/beer/friends/family/job. If he is really stubborn (or blinded by love as they like to see it) then make him give up everything else for 2 weeks. I mean everything. He cannot do a thing unless it is with you. Drive him to work, pick him up afterwards. Go out with him, wait at the gym for him, drink with him and talk to him constantly. Let’s be honest here, would you want to see that much of yourself?

Independent men used to be easily scared off. Being too clingy, especially in front of their friends did the trick with embarrassing ease. These days it isn’t enough. Independent man now wants a clingy woman to endorse his manliness and confirm his desirability in front of his mates. So the trick here is to be two women. That’s in an emotional sense, not in a scary wearing a wig, pretending to be your own twin way. When alone be very clingy. Want his whole itinerary, ask to see his texts, ring him as long as he’s alone. Talk a lot about “next year” and “the wedding”. As soon as his mates are there, act like he is invisible. He will be telling his mates how badly you want him and how he is stringing you along. They will laugh at how you discuss wedding plans with him and how you think you’ll be together next year. Once they can hear, do the opposite. If he mentions plans for next week, smile and say “let’s see how we feel then”. Any mention of weddings and rings, look sadly at him and say “I don’t want to embarrass you in front of your friends, let’s talk when we’re alone”. At this point, look directly at one of his mates and roll your eyes. He’ll be gone in a week.

I thought Neanderthal man was long dead. Not literally of course, I did do history at school and I am aware he’s been gone a while. No I mean the one man type we all recognise even without realising we think men fit into types. This one looks a bit odd. They have a slightly “missing link” look about them, communicate in grunts and live on beer. Women only exist to them as servants and housekeepers oh and sexual slaves of course. Bizarrely for all their simple behaviour, a lot of women like them. This seems to be because they have a strong base instinct for protecting their women. They can be spotted in bars as the ones saying “don’t touch/look at/buy a drink for, breathe near MY woman” whilst adopting a stance of readiness for action. This stance shows itself as having a chest sticking out further than their feet, hands clenching and unclenching and a woman clinging to their arm saying “don’t hit him, he wasn’t doing nothing, he ain’t worth it”.

Getting rid of this one is relatively easy. They want a girl to be a girl. You have to need them. I mean really need them to the point of helplessness. You have to become so weak you cannot open a single jar yourself. Nor can you open doors, lift shopping bags or drive a car. Strangely though you can lift lots of washing and open any type of beer can with your teeth. So if he comes home to find you have driven to the shops, opened several jars to make dinner including the one he couldn’t open himself and fixed the oil leak on the car, he is history. If there is any final resistance, add that you have bought him a pink shirt and some facial products and you have enrolled you both into a “getting to know your partner” class and he won’t just leave the house, he’ll move away.

If your man isn’t really a type then try some general tactics. Leaving a copy of “How to Please your Woman in Bed, improve your technique” on the coffee table when friends are coming can help. Crashing his car or if you want more prolonged torture, just driving it really badly will eventually drive him nuts. Selling his car to buy something really girly often finishes a relationship completely. Giving him shopping lists is simple and cheap. One hidden in his wallet so it falls out at the office lunchtime drink works a treat.

I suppose there’s one last thing to try. You could bring back the art of conversation. Just tell him. Men can’t multi task so don’t tell him when he’s washing up, watching tv, shaving or dressing. In fact definitely not when shaving. If any of it did get through he’s likely to slice his face open.

Plan your words carefully. Don’t waffle. Explain that you were really just looking for sex and someone to buy dinner for you and that all your friends are fixed up and you felt left out. Say you don’t want to lose him but that you wanted a man who just popped in occasionally and who fainted at the words commitment and feelings.

If at this point he cries or tries to cut himself with his razor (I told you not to do it when he’s shaving) then put his stuff in a bag and call him a taxi. If though he laughs, says “Thank God for that I can stop pretending” and leaves the washing up half finished (I told you…) then I’d keep him………. For EVER!

James Burns asked:


Many years ago a wonderful friend of mine asked me what the smallest part of the body is. I was very young and probably very stupid at the time and I responded with “Duh, a finger.” He commented to me, “No it’s the tongue.” He also said to me that although the tongue is the smallest part of the body it can do the most damage. I never forgot the conversation that I had with him; unfortunately he has since passed away and I miss him dearly. I could sure use a lot more of his advice and teaching. Our words can really do some damage. Damage sometimes that can be life long, and sometimes we don’t even know what were doing, probably because we just were never taught how to shut-up. Kids and adults can shoot their mouth off and think that they are being funny, or that they’re standing up for themselves when in reality they may be doing more harm than good. I was watching a baseball game very recently and watched one of the players go crazy over a called third strike. This is a grown man. He had to be restrained by 3 other players and the manager. Of course he was thrown out of the game. He was also suspended for three games right in the middle of a pennant race. I guess he really showed them. What a dope.

We also like to have laughs at someone else’s expense. My philosophy is if we both aren’t laughing it’s not funny. Kids today have a real problem with behavior like this. They say things, get a laugh and really hurt the feelings of another person. I don’t even think that they are aware of the fact that people are listening and not everyone is impressed with their wit, and that they are creating a negative image of themselves in the minds of other people.

That wonderful friend of mine who talked to me about the tongue was also full of illustrations and stories that were inspiring and instructional. He illustrated this societal problem with a true story that I always refer to as the “Deaf Boy Story” and it is worth sharing here.

There were two boys who were brothers. One of the boys was deaf. They had a friend who hung around with them all the time. This friend was the biggest jokester on two feet. He was always telling jokes or making fun of someone or something. One day the three boys were headed out of the house and this jokester started to make fun of the way the deaf boy spoke. Well the deaf kid couldn’t hear, and the brother gave a half hearted laugh and they left the house. No harm no foul? The deaf kid didn’t hear so no one got hurt. No one else heard right? No one heard except the deaf kid’s father who was reading the paper in the den.

Let’s fast forward the tape. At the time of this incident these two boys were sophomores in college. Two years went by and they both graduated with degrees in business administration. They both went on the job hunt. This jokester had an interview with a large insurance company. He had to go through one more phase of the hiring process. He had to meet the Vice-President of the company. Who do you think the Vice-President was? The deaf kid’s father, and the only perception that he had of this young man was that he had made fun of his son. It cost him……..the job. People hear and they watch too. You never know when you are going to need someone or something. The things that are the greatest desires of our hearts are the things that will be withheld from us because of our past words or actions. Self-control is important and if your tongue, a one ounce body part, has more control over you than you have over it, it will cost you when least expect it. You never know.

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Bestman Speeches asked:


Best man speeches are a meant for honour and add interest to the occasion. Best man speeches are a tribute to the couple getting married. They are emotional, humorous, generous and happening. Best man speeches are meant to be remarkable; something that remain etched in the memory of the couple and the visitors. Best man speeches are delivered to display admiration for the bridegroom. However, best man speeches don’t ignore the bride. She gets full credit and honours too and the couple is congratulated for their wedding. The wishes for a life full of joy and happiness must be sincere and heartfelt. Best man speeches require display of emotions and feelings. Hence, you must not think twice. Display your respect, feelings and sincerity on the occasion. Best man speeches are the most prominent part of the wedding occasion and the best man is selected by the groom. Hence, it is a great responsibility on the part of the speaker to address the occasion properly. Best man speeches are arranged for in advance. These best man speeches require prior preparation through websites, resources, lessons and tips. Best man speeches require efforts directed towards display of genuineness and sincerity blended with ounces of humor. They require good sense and appreciation. Personal introduction is necessary at the beginning along with the wishes to the couple. You must let the people know how you are related to the groom and how much the occasion means to you. You need to show the couple your sincerity. The words you use must be measured and need to be suitable for all audiences. Best man speeches areformal and brief. Since, it is a huge responsibility, best man speeches are not offered to everyone. Only special people get to deliver them. They require great responsibility in their deliverance. Personal remarks must be sincere and in good spirit. Opportunity to thank the organizers and the involved must not be missed. If possible, names should be mentioned in order to give sincere appreciation. Humour and wit is a common element in best man speeches and the speaker must have a good sense of humour. Jokes and witty statements are well accepted by the groom on this occasion. However, you need to be presentable, intelligent and well mannered in the deliverance. Best man speeches are usually given by people with an attractive personality. An empathizing attitude with the groom can help speakers to deliver effective and applauding best man speeches. Remember not to say something that embarrasses or causes offense to the groom. You ought to be well accentuated, verbose, sincere, genuine, presentable and ready for best man speeches. A complete preparation, probably through best man speeches websites or resources may help you. In case you are not prepared, websites offer readymade and well written best man speeches that may prove handy. These best man speeches are written by elegant people with a good rapport. Best man speeches available on websites are prepared after observation and research. They are being used largely for wedding receptions. Have a happy occasion!

Alex Strandberg asked:


If you missed part one, check it out here: http://innergamereframe.com/an-emotional-oak-tree/

Making jokes and being playful

Making jokes and being playful is a great thing for a relationship. You don’t lose the yang, oak tree, rock role just because you are playful and cracking jokes. You only lose that position if these things are done from insecurity and neediness.

Most guys will sit there making joke after joke after joke because they are looking for attention. They fear if they stop talking or making jokes that people won’t like them or will no longer pay any attention to them. The more jokes that they make, the higher the likelihood of other people liking them becomes. At the core of this is insecurity and feelings of not being enough.

Too often guys are playful with their girlfriends at the wrong time and for the wrong reasons. Guys will become playful with their girlfriends as a way to calm the girl down and to cheer her up. This is bad because the girlfriend sees the guy as weak and needy.

The guy will say something that the girls ego doesn’t like and go into pain body (collection of emotional trauma, very angry and upset). Her ego naturally blames the guy for it. When the guy tries to cheer her up and be playful with her it just reinforces the belief that the guy is the source of the problem. She also believe that he does this because he feels guilty about. Guilt is fear and not to be trusted and seen as weak in a relationship.

Most of the time he does feel guilty but its really just to make sure the girl doesn’t go completely overboard and deep into her emotional pain body. He fears that she might either leave or go completely insane and freak out on him. Most guys are scared of their girlfriends and play nice to try and prevent these things from happening.

Trying to cheer her up also denies her the pleasure of being miserable. The sweet is never as sweet without the sour.

Complaining

Women complain A LOT. It’s in their nature. They receive a lot of energy from complaining because it puts them in an emotional state. Women feel safe, secure and satisfied when in an emotional state.

Complaining has the same effect for the guy but worsens the relationship because an emotional guy isn’t trustworthy.

Complaining from a guy is ok ONLY if it isn’t poor me. If the guy takes full response-ability for creating his reality, the things to complain about become an annoyance rather than an overdramatic situation. It becomes a five minute annoyance over stubbing a toe, instead of an all day or week bitch fest about his throbbing pain.

To be yang is to be a leader and take charge in the world. Complaining about how hard things are for weeks on end is not being that leader. Instead of taking charge of the world, you have become a victim to it. A victim mentality blurs the sexual polarity in the relationship.

We need lead by example in our relationships. If she loves and trusts you she will follow your lead with almost anything. If you are setting the example of being a victim, then she will follow that lead and do the same. Being a victim is the last thing you want your girlfriends to be. We all have problems and things to work on but if both of you can’t own up to them, then how will you ever advance and evolve?

Talking too fast

Most guys think that being yang means to pump their chest out, talk a word per minute and to not re-act when a bomb goes off behind you. This is just plain false. Yang simply means to fall into your natural state through elimination of fears.

When guys talk too fast, they carry the same problem as the “too many jokes guy.” They do it for attention and out of fear that no one will listen if they don’t get it out fast enough. Ironically, talking too fast and nervously will push people away really fast and leave you without an audience.

Life is stressful and creates a lot anxiety ,so when people go out to have fun or get into relationships, they don’t want to feel more anxiety. Talking too fast talking adds to their already anxious state.

To talk slower, one doesn’t need to do much voice training other than eliminating their fears and insecurities. I used to have a horrible speaking voice. I would talk too fast, stutter, too soft and would mumble everything. I didn’t spend hour after hour working on my voice; I simply got rid of my fears. Now, I talk very deeply, slowly and loudly.

The way to solve being overly emotional, joking too much, angry or any fear based emotions is to have compassion. Compassion is having the courage to look at your problems honestly and getting to the true source of them. Compassion creates that non-reactive, strong, yang oak tree that women fall madly in love with and TRUST.

I’m coming out with a compassion ebook and how it relates to your relationships. Without compassion there is no relationship.

-Alex

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